With respect to your excellent article on caregiving (“Tough Love,” August/September 2016, http://bit.ly/NN-ToughLove), I would like to draw your attention to my friend and colleague, Alberto Ramos Tapia of New York City. For the last 10 years, he has been the chief caretaker of his 75-year-old wife, who had a cerebral hemorrhage and multiple strokes. He attends to all aspects of daily living, from preparing her favorite foods and taking her to local restaurants to dressing and bathing her and helping her to move from her bedroom to her seat at the table. Because of his devotion, his wife has been able to maintain her dignity and privacy. He is certainly the exception to the assertion that women are better caretakers than men and that women with strokes are often abandoned by their husbands.
—Robert S. April, MD
New York, NY