# 170 Pride, and Prisoner Relationships
Prior Tips on topic: # 20 SOCMOB;
# 64 What’s the Tueller Rule? Why do I care?; # 147 The Ides of March; #165 Respect the trajectory.
people consider the “helping professions” as caring and compassionate. We also
think so of ourselves. We work hard. We’re well-meaning. We’re good. The public
perception helps us. The latter usually helps, but can set us up to be
victimized. Our manners also get in the way.
confronting an “alleged” criminal or evil-doer, curiosity and repulsion
vacillate, but for self-assigned reasons, we try hard to not let it show. “What
if he’s really “Jean Valjean”? “I want him to trust me and
not be upset.” We innocently try to seem friendly. As he responds, we let our
guard down. Don’t let “Pride goeth before
do not know the true motivation for the visit. Real injury or illness, or
feigned? Respite from prison? Easier location from which to escape? Score
medicines? Gain weapons materiel? Confederates coming to “break him out?”
Opportunity for rape or assault? Seeks convalescing restrictions to beat a work
detail or avoid an adversary? Does your friendliness give rise to an obsession?
probably remember to remove pens, tools, and tie back hair. Do you remember to
remove your nametag (or at least turn it over)? Noncommittal introduction: “I’m
the person taking care of you.” Review all records; the patient may not be
forthcoming or truthful. Check drug screens despite denials; specimens must be
witnessed, and evidentiary “chain of custody” practiced.
State acts “in loco parentis”; tell very little to the “child”. No dates
of future visits, no self-care supplies to the patient, no personal favors like
“calling his family.” Leave nothing within reach or not mentioned to the
guards. Don’t insist, “remove those shackles”, to ease your principles; only
minimal modification of restraint as needed for treatment and permitted by
sharps are not the only possible weapons; are there electric cords? T-shirts or
gowns? You can be strangled with either. Heavy objects? Furniture? Even his
chains. Stay between the door and the patient; back out of the room. The
patient’s name, if used, is confidential and should not be shown, disclosed, or
inquiries answered; he’s the man who isn’t there.
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